From my early twenties I started to wonder about life. I asked myself what do I want from this life? what do I want to be? what do I want to have? What is possible? What can I achieve? How low will I sink? How good can I really feel? Why do I act like that? Why did I behave that way? How do I escape from this? How can I help others? How can I help myself? How can I be the best dad? How can I be the best version of me? The list goes on.
I had a good start in education, I took the entrance exam for Bury Grammar a year early and passed. I started well but my motivation and effort I put into my work deteriorated year on year. I was in self destruct mode and remember going to a party aged 14 and was hospitalized with alcohol poisoning. My behavior went down hill from there and I started to commit petty crimes. My first arrest soon followed and I continued to offend until I received a custodial sentence and spent 4 months in a Young Offenders Institute. This was a wake up call and when I really started to wonder about life. I had reached rock bottom but in the back of my mind I knew I could still sink further unless I took action. My circle of friends was an issue as we all committed crimes and smoked cannabis.
My first step was cutting out those friends, it wasn’t easy but I was lucky in the fact I had some ‘good’ friends that didn’t break the law.
A friend then recommended I see a friend of his for counselling. It helped, I had never experienced a relationship where someone had listened to me like that and encouraged me to think about what I was doing. I wanted to know more and volunteered for a mentoring project and completed an introduction to counselling skills course. It was amazing! I was devastated when it finished and it made me realise that I enjoyed learning and that school just didn’t have the subjects that interested me.
I bought a book ‘Change your life in 7 days’ by Paul McKenna and guess what it did! And I only read half of it, I listened to the mind programming CD for 3 weeks and stopped smoking cannabis. Just like that with no effort.
I was intrigued and needed to know what had happened. My mind had been reprogrammed; it was NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming. I completed the NLP practitioner course in 2006 and then again in 2010. Then I progressed to the Master Practitioner course and completed that in 2010 and again in 2012.
The stuff I learnt blew my mind. I had become a better person, understanding myself better and overcome some emotional barriers. I started to help others and had a lot of success. I enjoyed it too, I liked seeing others be happier with my guidance.
I started working at a secure care centre in 2002 and began to develop Biofeedback Self-Regulation Programmes to help the young people with emotions. I facilitated the programmes and trained staff over 14 years constantly improving my knowledge in the area of relaxation and achieving a calm state in the body and mind. I evidenced improvements in the young people in areas including anxiety, stress, anger, ADHD and sleep.
I trained in Thought Field Therapy (TFT) in 2017. It is a tapping therapy like the more commonly known EFT but TFT is diagnostic and roughly 90% effective and I can back this up with my results. I have been amazed by the speed and effectiveness of TFT and get so much pleasure from helping people remove emotional barriers.
I recently read the ‘The Emotion Code’ by Dr Bradley Nelson and this has been another significant step in me becoming the ‘best’ version of me I can be. In the book he explains how you can identify trapped emotional energy from negative past events and release it. In other words, dump your emotional baggage. I released over 200 emotions and I have never felt better in my whole life.
My biggest life question has always been what do I want and why do I want it? And it always comes down to the same thing, Happiness. I just want to be happy as much of the time that I am alive as possible. So, what makes me happy? My four children who I love to bits, my partner whose amazing and my soul mate, adventures and experiencing new things and helping others in whatever way I can.
I feel like I have learnt so much in my life from reflecting on my experiences and all of the effort I have put into being the ‘best’ me. I am extremely passionate about helping people to change and to overcome any emotional barriers preventing them from becoming the best version of themselves and being truly happy.
Please get in touch, I can help.